BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

3 Signs Your Anxious and Avoidant Relationship Will Work

If you’re anxiously attached and dating an avoidant, you already know this relationship is basically an extreme sport. One minute, you’re feeling all the love; the next, you’re staring at your phone wondering why they haven’t texted back for seven hours (… or seven days 😅). If you’re deep in the “is this ever going to work, or am I just setting myself up for heartbreak?” spiral, this episode is for you!
What We’re Covering in Today’s Episode:
💡 The #1 sign that your partner actually has the capacity to meet you in a healthy relationship
🔥 Why so many anxious daters say they want to heal but aren’t actually doing the work
🔍How to stop hyper-focusing on the one bad moment and see your relationship as a whole
I love this topic because I see it every day in my clients—high-achieving women who have their lives together on paper (degrees, careers, real estate, the whole thing) but secretly feel like a total mess when it comes to their relationships. If that’s you, you’re not alone. And if you’re exhausted from pushing away a good partner because your nervous system is constantly in panic mode, this episode will give you the clarity you need!
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Do you keep pushing a good one away or are you attracting emotionally unavailable people?

Okay, real talk—are you actually pushing away someone great, or do you just keep attracting emotionally unavailable people? Because SAME. Been there, lived it, wrote the metaphorical book.
This week, we’re getting deep into:
💔 Why you might be sabotaging a good relationship without realizing it
🔥 The real reason you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners
🧠 How your subconscious is literally running the show (but we can fix that)
✨ The shift that changes EVERYTHING so you stop chasing and start choosing I say this with love: If you’re stuck in the cycle of push-pull, over-explaining, or convincing someone to choose you… this episode is your wake-up call. Because here’s the truth: when you stop acting from fear and start moving from self-trust? That’s when everything shifts.  💕🎧
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Season 2! Understanding Push-Pull Relationship Dynamics

✨ Hey girlies, welcome to SEASON 2 of the BeThatHealingGirl Podcast! ✨ We’re leveling up big time—new vibes, new content, and SO many juicy convos ahead. Today, we’re diving into something we all know too well: the push-pull dynamic in relationships. You know, when things feel AMAZING one moment and like a dumpster fire the next? Been there. Let’s break it all the way down.
Here’s what we’re getting into:
💔 Why the push-pull cycle keeps you stuck in those same fights.
🧠 How emotional consistency (on your end) changes everything.
🎤 Why being heard is non-negotiable in relationships AND life. And girl, it’s not just about relationships this season. We’re zooming WAY out—because how you show up in your love life is so connected to things like burnout, perfectionism, and even your hormones (yes, we’re going there)!
Also, let’s talk TEA: In this episode, I’m spilling personal stories about my own push-pull messes, sharing a Q&A about speaking up without the guilt, and dropping some major updates about where this pod is headed (hint: IRL events might be coming soon 👀). This season is ALL about stepping into your power, owning your glow-up, and creating the relationship you deserve—starting with the one you have with yourself.
🎧 Hit play and let’s get into it. Drop me a comment, share with your bestie, and let’s heal together. Love you! 💖
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Stop Anxious Attachment to Live Your Best Life

✨ It’s 2025 and we’re not carrying anxious attachment into this new era okay? Feeling stuck in the what ifs and putting your life on hold for someone else? Trust me, I’ve been there. In this special year-end episode, we’re diving into how anxious attachment has been holding you back from living your best life—and, more importantly, how to leave it behind as we step into the new year. 🎉
Plus, we’ll dive into how YOU can start feeling full and magnetic in your life now, instead of waiting for the "perfect relationship" to come along. 
🌟Oh, and BIG NEWS: The Relationship Glow-Up Guide is here! This 5-day Mini Course is totally free, and I'll be walking you through simple daily practices (in less than 10 minutes a day) to help you start 2025 as your best, most healed self 💖
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Why Acting "Unbothered" Isn't Working With Anxious Attachment

In this episode I’m breaking down why pretending you’re totally fine when you’re actually spiraling inside is keeping you stuck. 🚨Spoiler Alert: Being unbothered isn’t an act. It’s a practice. If you’re tired of filling your calendar, holding in your feelings, and THEN word-vomiting because you can’t hold it in anymore… this episode is for you, honey.
We’ll talk: ✨ Why busying yourself isn’t the answer, how to stop performing and start self-revealing (healthily) and The key to feeling genuinely secure in yourself and your relationship.
🌟Oh, and BIG NEWS: The Relationship Glow-Up Guide kicks off January 1st! This 5-day Mini Course is totally free, and I'll be walking you through simple daily practices (in less than 10 minutes a day) to help you start 2025 as your best, most healed self 💖
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Anxious Meets Avoidant: How We Overcame the Fear Cycle in Our Relationship (Part 2 with Craig!)

💖 This is Part 2 of my special series with none other than my husband, Craig! In this episode, we’re diving deep into the patterns that defined the early days of our relationship—hello, anxious and avoidant attachment styles—and how we worked through them to create the connection we have today. We get super real about the miscommunications, the fears, and yes, even the moments we weren’t sure we’d make it.
Whether you're in the trenches of an anxious-avoidant dynamic or just trying to build a healthier connection, there’s so much here for you! 🎙️ Don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review this episode if it resonates! 
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Bday Special! Craig Gets his Podcast Cherry Popped [Part 1]

🚨 SPECIAL EPISODE ALERT! 🚨 This week on BeThatHealingGirl, I’m joined by none other than… my husband, Craig! 💍✨ We’re pulling back the curtain on our relationship and diving into everything from attachment styles (anxious vs. avoidant anyone? 👀), to the hilarity of fighting over In-N-Out Burger, to how fear vs. love plays a major role in relationships. Spoiler: We don’t hold back.
🫣 Craig shares his journey as “an evolving man,” growing up in a conservative family, navigating emotional vulnerability, and—let’s be real—trying to figure out what I actually do for a living (shoutout to my “girlies” 🫶). This is the real, raw, and sometimes ridiculous side of our relationship. Whether you’re navigating attachment struggles or just want a peek into how two VERY different people make it work, this episode is for you.
Bonus: There’s a Part 2 coming! 😏 💌 Head to Youtube (link below) to watch this full episode and let us know your favorite moment or the part that hit home for you in the comments! 
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Why the Reassurance Isn't Working

So you asked for the reassurance. You got it. And... you’re still spiraling. WTF, right? 🤯 This week, we’re getting into why that little “everything’s fine” doesn’t actually hit the way you hoped it would—and why it never will (spoiler: it’s not about them, bb, it’s about YOU). 💅
We’re unpacking the real tea on why reassurance is just a Band-Aid for what’s actually going on underneath—and how to break free from the cycle for good. If you’re tired of feeling like an emotional rollercoaster every time you send a “just checking in” text, or not so jokingly ask "do you still love me?" this episode is for you 💕 
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The Do's and Don'ts to Stop Overthinking

Ever sent a 3-page text knowing you shouldn’t? Or started a fight just because you couldn’t scratch that itch? Yep, we’re going there. If overthinking has you spiraling like Alice down the rabbit hole (been there!), this episode is for you.
We’re diving deep into the dos and don’ts of breaking free from the overthinking cycle so you can step back from the mental cliff and find peace. I’ll be breaking down exactly what’s not helping you stop overthinking (hello, distractions, numbing, and Pink Elephant syndrome 🐘) and what you can actually do to calm your anxious mind and take control.
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Staying Connected During Distant Moments

Does a little distance feel like a red alert to you? Whether it's a delayed text, a faraway look, or physical distance (hello, long-distance relationships!), this episode dives into the heart of how to stay connected even when your mind is spiraling.
With the holidays around the corner, distance—emotional or physical—might hit a little differently, but Clare is here to help you navigate it! Let's do this, bb!
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