BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

Is THIS The Most Toxic Habit of Anxious Attachment?

✨ Ever feel like your brain just won’t shut off... even when everything’s actually fine in your relationship? You’re spiraling, checking for signs, running worst-case scenarios, and overanalyzing their every move... but you know deep down, it’s you, not them. 🤯
On this week's episode we're diving into what might be the most toxic, but totally normalized, habit anxious attached girlies keep doing… and why it’s actually keeping you stuck in the spiral. 😵‍💫
If you're a high-achieving, big-hearted babe who feels like she knows better but just can’t stop overthinking, this is your sign to tune in.
We’re breaking down:
- The real reason your brain loves to overthink (hint: dopamine hit 😬)
- Why spiraling feels productive, even though it’s sabotaging connection
- How overthinking is actually keeping you from intimacy—and what to do instead
- What makes this pattern so hard to quit, even when your partner is amazing
💡 Plus, I'm giving you tools, truth bombs, and a loving kick in the butt to help you finally break the habit FOR GOOD! 🎧 LISTEN NOW and drop a comment if you’re deep in the spiral lately (no shame, you’re not alone).
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3 Things I Learned to Finally Stop Overthinking (after nearly 💩ing in a tent!)

After six weeks of serious inner work (including a spiritual cleanse and a solo wilderness retreat where I literally faced my fear of abandonment head-on), I’m sharing the three biggest things that helped me stop overthinking once and for all. If you’re the kind of girly who spirals over a short text... rereads convos wondering what you did wrong... or catastrophizes when nothing is actually wrong... this episode is going to hit deep.
Inside, we'll talk about:
✨ What it really means to listen to your body (and why it matters for your anxious brain)
✨ How productivity pressure secretly fuels relationship anxiety
✨ The difference between your gut and your fear brain
✨ And how I finally felt safe doing... nothing. Just being. Truly.
PLUS: tomorrow (Wednesday!) is Implementation Day inside The Healing Girl Gang and this month’s focus is on Overthinking. If you’re ready for the how, this is where we get specific and walk through the process together.
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How to Get Out of the Overthinking Loop for Good

If you spiral when your partner seems distant… If your brain won’t stop running “what did I do wrong?” loops… If you’re smart, successful, high-achieving, and still struggling with anxious thoughts in love… You are so not alone. And this episode is for you. 🧠💔
We’re unpacking 3 hard truths about overthinking that every anxious-attached woman needs to hear (especially if you’ve tried everything and still find yourself mentally replaying texts, second-guessing convos, or feeling like your thoughts are running you).
We're breaking down:
⭐️ The truth about why you can’t “outthink” fear
⭐️ What your spiral is actually protecting you from
⭐️ Why control isn’t the answer and what is
⭐️ How to retrain your nervous system instead of judging it
Plus, a real-time coaching moment with a Healing Girl Gang member struggling to let go of someone who doesn’t see a future even though she still feels love for him. You’re going to want to hear this. 👀 🌿
Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety and stop the mental spiraling once and for all? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we do just that with masterclasses, implementation days, live coaching, and our Overthinking Detox every month.
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What I’m Still Healing (Even as a Relationship Coach)

Ever feel like you're doing all the inner work, listening to every podcast, journaling your heart out and still fall back into the same anxious spirals or overthinking loops? SAME.
In this raw and real episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing what I’m still healing… even as a relationship coach. This episode is for the high-achieving, high-performing girlies who feel confident in their careers but are still spiraling in their relationships.
🎧 We’ll talk about:
✨The real reason your healing “isn’t sticking”
✨Why you might still spiral (even after tons of growth)
✨The sneaky trap of thinking healing means “no more conflict”
✨Why anxious attachment is less about perfection and more like tending a garden
I also share a little life update from my pre-retreat cleanse, what’s been going on with my body lately (ladies, let’s talk hormones + 90s low-rise trauma 🙃), and a deeply personal coaching answer to a listener’s question about giving a partner space without losing your mind.
❤️ If you’ve ever thought “I should be over this by now”… this one’s for you.
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The Hidden Damage Overthinking Does to Your Relationship

If You Overthink Every Text Message… This Episode Is For You! You’re crushing it at work, you're a boss in life, but when it comes to your relationship? You're suddenly spiraling over why he took 6-hours to text you back or asking "are we okay" over and over again...
Then this episode is your soft place to land.
In this episode we’re unpacking the hidden damage overthinking does to your relationships (even when things seem fine on the surface).
I’ll walk you through:
💭 Why overthinking feels productive but keeps you disconnected
🧠 How your brain uses spiraling as a safety strategy
💗 What it actually takes to shift into emotional peace and connection
🏕 Plus: a lil’ story about Blair Witch-level camping chaos (you’ll get it)
 
👯‍♀️ Also, shoutout to my Healing Girl Gang - we answer a listener Q about anxious attachment + space in relationships that SO many of you will relate to.
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From Anxious to Secure: Client Transformation with Karuna!

In this powerful episode, I sit down with my client Karuna - science writer, high achiever, and living proof that secure attachment is possible!
We’re talking full transformation: from spiraling over missed texts to feeling calm, confident, and deeply self-trusting in relationships (and beyond). Karuna shares the real, raw moments (crying in the shower, questioning everything, and wondering if the anxiety would ever go away). But through coaching, truth-telling, and data-driven reflection (yes, we get nerdy), she experienced a 75%+ increase in her confidence, mindset, and self-trust AND a 133% decrease in her overthinking.
👀 Plus:
→ What it really feels like to date while anxious
→ Why traditional therapy didn’t quite cut it
→ The sneaky ways we micromanage our partners
→ What shifted when she stopped trying to be "less anxious" and started trusting herself This one is so honest, so hope-giving, and such a beautiful reminder that you’re not broken - you just haven’t been given the right tools yet.
 
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The Truth About Feeling Like You’re “Too Much” in Your Relationship

Ever feel like you're just too much in your relationship? 😵‍💫 Like your emotions are too messy, too needy, or too intense so you try to keep them bottled up just to keep the peace?
Yeah… been there.
In this week’s episode we're getting into the real reason you feel like you're too much (and why it’s actually a sign you're ready to heal your anxious attachment for good!) This is for the high-achieving girlies who are secretly spiraling in their relationships. You know, refreshing your texts 12x an hour, over-apologizing for crying, or feeling like vulnerability makes you "bad at love."
In this episode we're talking:
✨ Why your “too muchness” isn’t actually too much
✨ The role of emotional safety in healing anxious attachment
✨ How over-functioning at work translates to under-functioning in your relationships
✨ What your internal rulebook says about love...and how to rewrite it
✨ How to stop self-sabotaging when a secure partner shows up 💭 Plus, I share a personal story from a 1:1 client who broke the cycle (and what made her healing finally click).
This one’s juicy, raw, and real and I can’t wait for you to hear it!
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3 Reasons Why Your Post-vacation Relationship Anxiety is Happening (again and again)

You had an amazing weekend... the vibes were vibing, the cuddles were elite, and the connection felt so good. Then you got home, sat on the couch, and suddenly you’re spiraling.
Sound familiar?
This episode is all about why post-vacation (or post-holiday) anxiety hits so hard (especially if you’re anxiously attached and dating someone amazing). I’m breaking down the threebig reasons why you keep freaking out after it all went so well.
💥 We’re talking:    •    The honeymoon bubble (and why it messes with your nervous system)    •    The closeness crash (aka what happens when reality returns)    •    The expectation + confirmation bias gap (aka why a great weekend sets you up to doubt it all)
Even if your partner is wonderful, even if everything is fine, your brain can still be screaming “danger.” You’re not broken. You just need tools, structure, and support and I’ve got you. 🫶
Plus: I’m sharing a Q from a Healing Girl Gang member struggling with anxiety after her partner reassures her (if that’s not real, I don’t know what is).
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Let’s normalize the weird grief of a great trip ending, and finally stop blowing up what’s actually going really well.
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What a Secure Relationship Actually Looks Like (even if it feels weird)

If slow feels boring, if calm feels confusing, and if your nervous system is low-key addicted to chaos.... this one’s for you.
This week, we’re diving into what a secure relationship actually looks and feels like (even if your anxious attachment says, “Wait, is this it?”). Whether you’re dating, in a long-term partnership, or healing from relationship patterns that feel more like rollercoasters than real connection, I’m breaking down the 6 big shifts that define secure love.
✨ Spoiler alert: It’s not fast, intense, or dramatic. It’s steady. Consistent. Intentional. And deeply healing (even if your brain wants to sprint toward a vibe check).
We’re talking:
• Why moving fast ≠ connection
• How to tell if you’re chasing intensity instead of sincerity
• What “repair” looks like vs. reaction
• And why secure love might feel… weird (at first)
Plus, I’m sharing an honest question from one of my Healing Girl Gang members going through a painful breakup, and offering the truth we all need when we want to hold on instead of letting go. Let’s unlearn the chaos and relearn calm love, together.
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Anxious attached with an Avoidant - Becoming Secure Together (Special Anniversary Episode!)

It’s our 6-year wedding anniversary (!!) and today I brought my husband Craig on the podcast for the realest conversation about love, growth, and the journey from spiraling to secure.
We’re answering your juiciest Qs:
✨ What it’s really like when anxious meets avoidant
✨ Our proposal story (yes, there was a backup plan involving a dog)
✨ How we almost didn’t make it—and what shifted
✨ Craig’s honest take on what helped him finally “grow up” emotionally
✨ Plus: our chaotic traits, icks, inside jokes, and a BIG announcement (no, not a baby)
Whether you’re deep in your healing era or just curious about what it looks like to actually do this work with a partner, this episode is for you. It’s honest. It’s sweet. It’s full of growth and some light roasting (Just the way we like it!)
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