BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

The Instant Fix for Anxious Attachment Triggers

Welcome to the episode every anxious attachment girlie needs in her back pocket. If you spiral when they don’t text back, replay convos 14 times in your head, or wake up with an emotional hangover worse than a tequila bender… this one's for you. 💌
We’re talking about what actually works in the heat of the moment — when you’re triggered, panicked, and low-key ready to throw your phone out the window. 💅
Inside this episode, I’m breaking down:
🧠 What it means to act from your wound vs. your healing
💌 How to stop overthinking in real-time — without ghosting your own needs
🌱 The 3-part process that’s helping my clients regulate their triggers instantly ⚡ Why vulnerability (yes, the scary kind) is the REAL fix for the spiral
🧃 And the tea on emotional hangovers vs. real healing (spoiler: hot girl walks won’t fix your subconscious)
PLUS: I answer a listener question about feeling anxious when your man is off having fun — even if he’s never given you a reason not to trust him. 👀 Let’s ditch the “I’m fine” mask, stop walking it off, and start healing in real-time. You deserve secure love 💕
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Spot Hyper-Independence Triggers in Your Relationship

Let’s be real: you’re the hyper-independent girlie who gets ish DONE. You’ve got the degree, the business, the receipts. But when it comes to relationships? Your anxious attachment is quietly (or not so quietly) throwing hands in the background. 😅
In this episode, I’m diving deep into what I call the "Don’t need anyone but kinda wish they’d text me first" energy — aka the sneaky link between anxious attachment and hyper-independence. Because yes, you can be both!
If you've ever said: ➤ “I can just do it myself”, “I don’t need anyone”... but secretly want someone to show up for you... 👀 bb, this episode is for you.
We’re talking: ✨ The blind spots that keep you stuck in ‘strong girl’ mode:
✨ Self-sabotage in love (and how to spot it)
✨ The trap of over-functioning — in relationships AND at work
✨ Why needing support is not a weakness
✨ And how to stop masking vulnerability with perfectionism
Plus, I’m sharing a few real, raw stories (including the one where I got applauded for leaving my plate out?? Yes. You’ll get it when you hear it.) 👑 Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or single but spiraling, this episode is a mirror. And it’s time to stop choosing patterns that don’t serve the secure, healthy love you actually want.
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Mistakes in Treating Anxious Attachment Triggers

In this episode, I’m breaking down the biggest mistakes I see when people try to “fix” their anxious attachment triggers—and why those habits might actually be keeping you stuck in the same cycle. 🚨
We’re diving into:🔥 Why being hard on yourself is making it worse (and what to do instead)🔥 The sneaky ways perfectionism is showing up in your healing process🔥 How to stop intellectualizing and actually feel secure in your body🔥 Why masking your emotions is lowkey ruining your relationships🔥 How to self-soothe without avoidance, isolation, or spiraling
I’ve made these mistakes. My clients have made these mistakes. But the good news? You don’t have to keep making them. 🙌🏼
So if you’re tired of catching yourself in the same relationship spirals, constantly trying to “fix” things that aren’t broken, or feeling like no amount of journaling and self-work is actually shifting anything… this episode is for you.
✨ Ready to stop self-sabotaging and start feeling secure?👉🏽 Drop a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review if this hit home (seriously, it helps SO much!)👉🏽 Join me in the Healing Girl Gang for the full training in April👉🏽 DM me “TRIGGERS” on IG if you’re ready for deeper support!
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Anxiously Attached to ENGAGED?!

Imagine going from spiraling over “Do they really like me?” to casually ring shopping like it’s no big deal. 🤯 That’s exactly what’s happening for my clients—and in this episode, I’m giving you the real tea on how they went from anxious to ENGAGED. 💍✨
If you’re a high-achieving, overthinking, lowkey-perfectionist queen who’s crushing it in your career but secretly struggling with relationship anxiety (yeah, I see you), this episode is going to hit hard.
🔥 Here’s what we’re diving into:✨ Why anxious attachment doesn’t have to mean relationship struggle forever✨ The #1 mindset shift my clients made that changed everything✨ How to stop spiraling over your relationship and start feeling secure✨ What happens when you finally face your fears instead of avoiding them
If you’re tired of playing it cool while your brain is running worst-case scenarios 24/7, hit play NOW. And if this resonates? Drop a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review so more girlies can find this and start healing, too!
P.S. If you’re ready to actually do the work that gets you to this level of peace in your relationship, let’s talk. Because the truth? What you don’t change, you choose. 🫶🏼
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When You Want More Effort From Your Partner

Feel like you're the one keeping the relationship alive? 😩 You’re planning the dates, remembering the little things, prioritizing them… and they’re just kinda there. So what gives? Are you asking for too much? Are they low-effort or just wired differently? And most importantly—how do you actually get them to step up without nagging, over-functioning, or feeling like you have to prove your worth? I gotchu, bb! Today, we’re breaking it all down:
🔥 Why high-achieving women struggle with feeling like it’s never enough (and why this shows up in your relationships)
🧠 How subconscious programming is keeping you stuck in over-giving mode
💡 Signs you’re acting from a wound vs. a real relationship need
🚩 What to do if your partner’s effort feels just a little too bare minimum
👑 How to communicate your needs without being needy (yes, it’s possible!)
 
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When It Feels Like You're Doing All the Work in Your Relationship

STOP DOING ALL THE WORK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP 😤 (Why You’re Exhausted & How to Fix It) Ever feel like you’re carrying the whole damn relationship on your back? Planning the dates, making space in your schedule, keeping the energy going—while he just... coasts? Yeah, I see you, and this episode is for you.
Today, we’re breaking down why high-achieving, type-A women (hi, that’s you👋) often fall into the pattern of over-functioning in relationships—and what to do about it. Because relationships aren’t meant to feel like a group project where you’re doing all the work while your partner barely puts in effort. We’re talking about:
✨ Why doing less in your relationship actually makes it stronger
✨ How your anxious attachment + overachiever mindset keep you stuck
✨ The sneaky ways you might be self-sabotaging your relationship
✨ How to lean back, stop overextending, and let THEM step up 👀
 
🔥 UPCOMING TRAINING: Ready to actually implement this? In March, I’m teaching a LIVE training on how to communicate your needs without feeling needy + set boundaries that don’t backfire. Stay tuned!
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Stopping the Systemic Self Sabotage & Relationship Anxiety

This week I’m joined by Dr. Jeanine Staples-Dixon, a literal genius, tenured professor at Penn State, and someone who knows why you keep self-sabotaging in love.
We’re breaking down:
🔥 Why your relationship anxiety isn’t just a “you” thing—it’s a SYSTEM thing
🔥 How patriarchy, white supremacy & capitalism keep you chasing love & approval
🔥 The sneaky ways you abandon yourself trying to “win” a man’s attention
🔥 How to de-center a man (without ruining your relationship, I swear)
🔥 What ACTUALLY makes you feel safe & secure in love (hint: not another anxious text at 2AM 💀)
⚡ If you’re tired of spiraling, waiting for his texts, and feeling like a full-time detective on his IG stories—this episode is for you. 💡 The self-trust era is upon us. Because you don’t need to prove your worth to anyone, and you sure as hell don’t need to perform for love. Let’s fix this.
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How to Feel Secure in Your Anxious with an Avoidant Relationship

🚨 Reality check for my high-achieving, anxious girlies in relationships with an avoidant partner… 🚨
Valentine’s Day can be a lot—especially if you’re anxiously attached and caught in the push-pull dynamic. The overthinking. The “are we okay?” spiral. The low-key panic when they don’t text back right away. Sound familiar? You’re not alone, and this episode is for YOU. 💌💡
In today’s episode we’re diving into:
✨ How to actually feel SECURE in your relationship (without forcing them to change)
✨ Why anxious attachment isn’t a you problem—it’s a learned pattern (and how to unlearn it)
✨ How to stop making Valentine’s Day (or any other random Tuesday) the ultimate test of your worth
✨ The real secret to getting closer to your avoidant partner WITHOUT over-explaining, chasing, or spiraling And let’s be real… if someone called you insecure, your knee-jerk response would be absolutely not, I have my life together, thank you. But when it comes to love? That’s where things feel messy. So let’s talk about it.
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3 Signs Your Anxious and Avoidant Relationship Will Work

If you’re anxiously attached and dating an avoidant, you already know this relationship is basically an extreme sport. One minute, you’re feeling all the love; the next, you’re staring at your phone wondering why they haven’t texted back for seven hours (… or seven days 😅). If you’re deep in the “is this ever going to work, or am I just setting myself up for heartbreak?” spiral, this episode is for you!
What We’re Covering in Today’s Episode:
💡 The #1 sign that your partner actually has the capacity to meet you in a healthy relationship
🔥 Why so many anxious daters say they want to heal but aren’t actually doing the work
🔍How to stop hyper-focusing on the one bad moment and see your relationship as a whole
I love this topic because I see it every day in my clients—high-achieving women who have their lives together on paper (degrees, careers, real estate, the whole thing) but secretly feel like a total mess when it comes to their relationships. If that’s you, you’re not alone. And if you’re exhausted from pushing away a good partner because your nervous system is constantly in panic mode, this episode will give you the clarity you need!
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Do you keep pushing a good one away or are you attracting emotionally unavailable people?

Okay, real talk—are you actually pushing away someone great, or do you just keep attracting emotionally unavailable people? Because SAME. Been there, lived it, wrote the metaphorical book.
This week, we’re getting deep into:
💔 Why you might be sabotaging a good relationship without realizing it
🔥 The real reason you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners
🧠 How your subconscious is literally running the show (but we can fix that)
✨ The shift that changes EVERYTHING so you stop chasing and start choosing I say this with love: If you’re stuck in the cycle of push-pull, over-explaining, or convincing someone to choose you… this episode is your wake-up call. Because here’s the truth: when you stop acting from fear and start moving from self-trust? That’s when everything shifts.  💕🎧
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