BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

The Truth About Feeling Like You’re “Too Much” in Your Relationship

Ever feel like you're just too much in your relationship? 😵‍💫 Like your emotions are too messy, too needy, or too intense so you try to keep them bottled up just to keep the peace?
Yeah… been there.
In this week’s episode we're getting into the real reason you feel like you're too much (and why it’s actually a sign you're ready to heal your anxious attachment for good!) This is for the high-achieving girlies who are secretly spiraling in their relationships. You know, refreshing your texts 12x an hour, over-apologizing for crying, or feeling like vulnerability makes you "bad at love."
In this episode we're talking:
✨ Why your “too muchness” isn’t actually too much
✨ The role of emotional safety in healing anxious attachment
✨ How over-functioning at work translates to under-functioning in your relationships
✨ What your internal rulebook says about love...and how to rewrite it
✨ How to stop self-sabotaging when a secure partner shows up 💭 Plus, I share a personal story from a 1:1 client who broke the cycle (and what made her healing finally click).
This one’s juicy, raw, and real and I can’t wait for you to hear it!
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3 Reasons Why Your Post-vacation Relationship Anxiety is Happening (again and again)

You had an amazing weekend... the vibes were vibing, the cuddles were elite, and the connection felt so good. Then you got home, sat on the couch, and suddenly you’re spiraling.
Sound familiar?
This episode is all about why post-vacation (or post-holiday) anxiety hits so hard (especially if you’re anxiously attached and dating someone amazing). I’m breaking down the threebig reasons why you keep freaking out after it all went so well.
💥 We’re talking:    •    The honeymoon bubble (and why it messes with your nervous system)    •    The closeness crash (aka what happens when reality returns)    •    The expectation + confirmation bias gap (aka why a great weekend sets you up to doubt it all)
Even if your partner is wonderful, even if everything is fine, your brain can still be screaming “danger.” You’re not broken. You just need tools, structure, and support and I’ve got you. 🫶
Plus: I’m sharing a Q from a Healing Girl Gang member struggling with anxiety after her partner reassures her (if that’s not real, I don’t know what is).
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Let’s normalize the weird grief of a great trip ending, and finally stop blowing up what’s actually going really well.
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What a Secure Relationship Actually Looks Like (even if it feels weird)

If slow feels boring, if calm feels confusing, and if your nervous system is low-key addicted to chaos.... this one’s for you.
This week, we’re diving into what a secure relationship actually looks and feels like (even if your anxious attachment says, “Wait, is this it?”). Whether you’re dating, in a long-term partnership, or healing from relationship patterns that feel more like rollercoasters than real connection, I’m breaking down the 6 big shifts that define secure love.
✨ Spoiler alert: It’s not fast, intense, or dramatic. It’s steady. Consistent. Intentional. And deeply healing (even if your brain wants to sprint toward a vibe check).
We’re talking:
• Why moving fast ≠ connection
• How to tell if you’re chasing intensity instead of sincerity
• What “repair” looks like vs. reaction
• And why secure love might feel… weird (at first)
Plus, I’m sharing an honest question from one of my Healing Girl Gang members going through a painful breakup, and offering the truth we all need when we want to hold on instead of letting go. Let’s unlearn the chaos and relearn calm love, together.
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Anxious attached with an Avoidant - Becoming Secure Together (Special Anniversary Episode!)

It’s our 6-year wedding anniversary (!!) and today I brought my husband Craig on the podcast for the realest conversation about love, growth, and the journey from spiraling to secure.
We’re answering your juiciest Qs:
✨ What it’s really like when anxious meets avoidant
✨ Our proposal story (yes, there was a backup plan involving a dog)
✨ How we almost didn’t make it—and what shifted
✨ Craig’s honest take on what helped him finally “grow up” emotionally
✨ Plus: our chaotic traits, icks, inside jokes, and a BIG announcement (no, not a baby)
Whether you’re deep in your healing era or just curious about what it looks like to actually do this work with a partner, this episode is for you. It’s honest. It’s sweet. It’s full of growth and some light roasting (Just the way we like it!)
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Why You Think Its Your Fault in the Relationship (even when its not)

Still Needing Constant Reassurance in Your Relationship? Here’s Why 👀 . This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together … but on the inside, you’re checking the vibes like it’s your full-time job.
We’re talking:
✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance—and how to stop needing it
✨ The connection between high achievement & emotional hypervigilance
✨ How to build real self-trust (the kind that doesn’t care if he texts back in 5 min or 5 hours)
PLUS: I’m sharing a few of the funniest icks from my DMs (and you will scream at one of them)
😂 If you're secretly struggling in a relationship that "should" feel safe, you're not crazy and you're definitely not alone. This episode will help you shift from spiraling to self-secure.
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How To Stop Needing Constant Reassurance

This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together (you’ve got degrees, deadlines, and the job)… but on the inside, you’re checking the relationship vibes like it’s your full-time job.
We’re talking:
✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance and how to stop needing it
✨ The connection between high achievement & emotional hyper-vigilance
✨ How to build real self-trust (the kind that doesn’t care if he texts back in 5 min or 5 hours)
PLUS: I’m sharing a few of the funniest icks from the TickerTocker (and you will scream at one of them) 😂 If you're secretly struggling in a relationship that "should" feel safe, you're not crazy and you're definitely not alone. This episode will help you shift from spiraling to self-secure.
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This month inside the Girl Gang, we’re doing a full detox of overthinking + learning exactly how to soothe yourself without needing 24/7 validation from your partner. Want in? DM me “GIRLGANG” on IG! 
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3 Reasons Why Your Anxious Attachment Isn't Healing

We’re unpacking the 3 big reasons your anxious attachment isn’t healing, even if you’re doing everything “right.” Spoiler: it’s not about trying harder… it’s about trying differently.
If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware, anxious girlie who still feels like a walking red flag in relationships, this one’s for you.
We’re talking:
✨ Why performing yur healing is keeping you stuck
✨ The myth of linear progress (and why healing is actually a spiral staircase
✨ How to stop overwatering the plant and just let it grow 🪴
Plus, I’m sharing a wild story from the internet girlie streets (hi, Wizard Liz 👀) that proves you can be a literal goddess and still get ghosted, cheated on, or confused AF in love.
💌 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG If you’re ready to actually break the anxious cycle and learn to feel safe in your body (not just in theory), come hang with us inside the Girl Gang. Monthly deep dives, nervous system rituals, and a no-perfection zone.
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How She Went From Overthinking Everything to Feeling Secure in Love

Ever wonder what it actually looks like to go from anxious, overthinking, “I’m probably the problem” energy… to grounded, confident, and finally feeling secure in your relationship?
In this raw and heart-hitting episode, I’m sitting down with one of my 1:1 coaching client, a high-achieving, military-working, nurse-extraordinaire, who decided to stop spiraling overseas (literally!) and finally heal for real.
We’re talking:💭 Overthinking and the "doom scroll" inside your own brain💌 How your childhood wounds sneak into adult relationships📲 Why waiting on a text back used to ruin her day — and what’s changed💥 The difference between self-help and actual transformation🌊 And how she learned to communicate without blowing things up
Plus: what made her go from “I can fix this on my own” to “I need deeper support”… and how that shift changed everything.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re “too much,” like you’re self-sabotaging something good, or like your brain just won’t stop spinning…this episode is for you.
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5-Minute Pep Talk: For When Your Relationship Overthinking Kicks In

Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! If your mind is spiraling, your stomach’s in knots, and you’ve refreshed your texts 18 times in the last 3 minutes… this episode is your emergency toolkit! In this quick but powerful 5-minute pep talk, I’m giving you grounding reminders to come back home to yourself when your anxious attachment gets triggered.
This is the episode to save, download, share with your bestie, and play on repeat when you're about to spiral.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why your anxiety makes sense (and why you’re not broken)
✨ How to regulate your nervous system in the moment
✨ A powerful breathing practice to calm your body
✨ How to shift your energy back to YOU instead of chasing
✨ Loving prompts to re-center and choose yourself first
If you’re new here, I’m Clare, a relationship coach for high-achieving girlies who crush it at work but feel lost, anxious, or overthink-y in love. You're not alone, and you are SO not broken.
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Reminders For When You Have Your Anxious Attachment Triggered

Ever find yourself refreshing your texts like your life depends on it? Or spending 10 hours doing two hours of work because your brain won’t stop obsessing over that thing you said? Yep. This one’s for you, bb!
In this episode, I’m giving you powerful (and surprisingly calming) reminders for when your anxious attachment kicks in HARD. Whether you're deep in a spiral or just know one is brewing, these are the things I wish someone had told me when I was riding the relationship-anxiety rollercoaster daily.
We're talking:
- The difference between urgency and truth (spoiler: they are not the same)
- Why “if it feels hysteric, it’s historic” is your new healing mantra
- The cold hard truth: you cannot out-logic your nervous system (sorry to my high-achieving girlies with 3 degrees and a color-coded Google calendar)
Plus: a little gut health update (yes, your anxiety might be coming from your stomach), a hilarious “Would You Rather” game you’re gonna want to bring to your next girls’ night, and a juicy Q&A from inside the Healing Girl Gang!
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