BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

In this week's episode, I'm unpacking why reassurance never seems to stick and why asking for more isn't actually the thing that's going to make you feel safe.
One of the biggest mindset shifts I ever had was realizing I wasn't really asking:
"Do you love me?"
I was asking:
"Am I safe?"
And those are two completely different questions.
We get into:
✨ Why reassurance feels good... for about five minutes
✨ The anxious attachment loop that keeps resetting itself
✨ Why your partner can't fix something that isn't actually coming from them
✨ The difference between communicating your needs and chasing reassurance
✨ How to build the kind of internal safety that doesn't disappear every time they take three hours to text back
If you've ever felt embarrassed by how much reassurance you need or wondered why you can absolutely crush it at work but completely unravel over one delayed text... this episode is for you.
And if you're tired of understanding your patterns but still feeling trapped by them... I have something coming that's built exactly for that.
🎧 Let's get into it!
 
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If you've ever felt like you're pushing a good person away because of your anxiety, or if you're caught in the same argument cycle every few weeks, this episode is a must-listen for you. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or even married and finding those anxious triggers popping up, I'm here to guide you through it. 💖
In today's episode, I get real about my own journey with anxious attachment, share insights on how these symptoms can sabotage a good thing, and offer strategies to not only stop pushing your partner away but to actually bring them closer. Plus, don't miss the hot tip at the end where I reveal the internal shift that changed everything for me!!!
🔍 Inside This Episode:
- Personal anecdotes and lessons learned from my own relationship struggles 📚
- Understanding the impact of anxiously attached symptoms on your love life 💔
- Strategies to manage triggers and avoid pushing your partner away 🛑
- A transformative hot tip that will help you bring your partner closer instead of driving them away 🔥
If you're a high-achieving, overthinking girly who's slaying in every area of your life except romantically, then you're in the perfect spot. Let's navigate these choppy waters together and turn your relationship anxiety into a source of strength.
#BeThatHealingGirl #AnxiousAttachment #RelationshipAnxiety #LoveHealing #PodcastLove
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You know you're overthinking... so why can't you stop? 🤯
You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You know your attachment style, your triggers, and exactly why you're spiraling...
...so why are you still spiraling?
In this episode, we'll unpack the hard truth that most self-aware women never hear: understanding your anxious attachment isn't the same as rewiring it. If you're stuck in the cycle of "I know what's happening, but I still can't stop," this conversation is for you.
In this episode, we cover:
🧠 Why self-awareness alone doesn't stop relationship anxiety💭 The trap of becoming an expert on your anxiety... without changing it❤️ Why high-achieving women often feel the most frustrated with their healing journey🔥 The difference between insight and actual transformation✨ A client story that proves real change is possible when you stop collecting information and start practicing something different🍪 Clare's favorite cookie analogy for why more journaling isn't always the answer
If you've ever thought...
"I know I'm overthinking. I know WHY I'm overthinking... so why can't I stop?"
...you're going to feel incredibly seen in this episode.
Whether you're navigating anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, people-pleasing, or simply feel exhausted from constantly trying to "fix yourself," this episode will help you understand what actually creates lasting change.
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You had an amazing weekend together...
So why are you MORE anxious now? 😅
If you've ever caught yourself overthinking after things went well ("Why am I spiraling? Nothing even happened..."), this episode is for you.
In this episode, I'm breaking down why anxious attachment often gets triggered after closeness, why your brain starts scanning for problems the moment you finally feel safe, and how to stop turning beautiful moments into the beginning of your next spiral.
Inside this episode:💛 Why good weekends can trigger MORE anxiety than bad ones🧠 The surprising reason your brain treats peace like danger📱 Why Monday texts suddenly feel loaded after a great weekend⚠️ The hidden pattern keeping you stuck in the anxious attachment loop✨ The difference between understanding your triggers... and actually changing them🫶 A client story that'll make you believe secure love is possible🌿 How curiosity (not reassurance) is what finally rewires anxious attachment
If you're successful everywhere else in life but somehow become a detective every time your partner takes a little longer to text back... welcome. You're in the right place.
Whether you're navigating relationship anxiety, anxious attachment, overthinking texts, or learning how to finally trust a healthy relationship, this episode will help you stop bracing for the bad and start enjoying the good.
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You know they're a good partner. So why does your brain still act like you're about to get abandoned? 😵‍💫
You know your attachment style.You've read the books.You can literally watch yourself spiraling...
...and somehow you still can't stop.
In this week's episode I'm breaking down why knowing better isn't the same as feeling safe... and what to do when your nervous system goes into full-on survival mode over a delayed text, a quiet mood, or a tiny change in communication.
In this episode:
💭 Why high-achieving women feel so confident at work... but powerless in relationships🧠 The hidden reason your brain treats a delayed text like an emergency❤️ Why reassurance only gives temporary relief (and actually keeps the cycle alive)🌱 The difference between surviving your relationship and actually feeling secure in it🚩 How "I just need a little more clarity" might be keeping you stuck✨ My own story about breaking an old family pattern in real time👯‍♀️ A client win that proves you can stop spiraling even if you've struggled with jealousy, abandonment, or anxious attachment for years
If you've ever thought...
"I KNOW I'm overthinking... so why can't I stop?"
This episode is for you.
Because healing anxious attachment isn't about becoming smarter.
It's about teaching your nervous system that you're safe (even when you don't have all the answers)
If you're tired of surviving your relationship and ready to actually enjoy it, hit play. 🤍
✨ Want support while you're actually in the spiral—not just after?
The Secure Love Lab is my coaching membership for high-achieving women who are ready to stop overthinking every text, build secure attachment, and finally trust themselves in love.
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Hey Girlies! It's Clare, your go-to gal for navigating the rollercoaster of emotions that is modern dating and relationships. This week we're diving into a topic that I know way too well, and I bet you do too: overthinking in relationships. You know the drill - analyzing texts, second-guessing feelings, and playing out scenarios in your head that haven't (and probably won't) happen.
In this episode, we're gonna chat about:
- The why behind our tendency to overanalyze every little detail and how it's messing with our vibe.
- Personal stories from my own love life (yep, it's gonna get real) and lessons learned from spiraling into the overthinking abyss.
- Practical, no-BS strategies to quiet that overactive mind of yours, so you can actually enjoy dating and not turn it into a full-time job (because who's got time for that?).
- How to distinguish between intuition and fear-based overthinking. Spoiler alert: They're not the same thing!
So, grab your headphones and gear up for your hot girl walk and let's get into it! Trust me, by the end of this episode, you'll be ready to tackle love head-on, with a clear mind and an open heart!  💖✨
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Hey Girlies! Buckle up for a wild ride where I’ll be spilling the piping hot tea on all things love, anxiety, and healing. This episode is all about the down and dirty truth about anxious attachment (and how to start healing now!) 
Ever find yourself obsessing over a text (or lack thereof) from Mr. Maybe-Right? Tired of playing the waiting game with your phone? I’ve got you covered! For 20ish minutes I’ll be dishing out my unfiltered thoughts and juicy secrets on navigating the rollercoaster of relationship anxiety. 
From cringe-worthy dating fails to epic self-discovery, plus my own hot mess moments and breakthroughs. Get ready for a bombshell tip on healing anxious attachment... it's all about tuning into your body (because, let's face it, feeling is healing!)
So whether you’re getting ready for your hot girl walk or pouring yourself a glass of whatever makes you fabulous, hit play, and let's dive into this journey of turning your love life from anxious to aligned. Remember, you're not just any girl; you're THAT healing girl. Let's do this! 
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You keep chasing. They keep pulling away. And somehow you're both exhausted. 😵‍💫
If you've ever felt like you're carrying the relationship, making all the plans, initiating all the conversations, and doing all the emotional heavy lifting... this episode is for you.
Because here's the hard truth:
The more you push for connection, the harder it can become for someone else to show up.
In this episode, we're diving into what it actually takes to break the anxious-avoidant cycle and why the answer isn't communicating better, trying harder, or becoming the "perfect" partner.
Inside this episode:
💭 Why you keep finding yourself in the same push-pull dynamic🫠 The surprising way anxiety creates distance in relationships📅 Why making all the plans might be the thing keeping you stuck❤️ What happens when you stop forcing connection and start allowing it🌪️ How overfunctioning destroys intimacy (even when your intentions are good)🌱 The difference between being flexible and being a people-pleasing pushover✨ What secure attachment actually looks like in real life
If you're a high-achiever who can run a business, manage a team, crush your goals, and somehow still spend hours wondering why someone hasn't texted back...
Welcome. You're in the right place!
Because healing anxious attachment isn't about becoming easier to love.
It's about becoming secure enough to stop chasing it.
And sometimes the thing you're desperately trying to create is the exact thing you're accidentally preventing.
Grab your coffee, put your detective hat down for a minute, and let's talk about it. 🤍
#AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantAttachment 
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They're busy, stressed, traveling, focused on work... and logically you know nothing is wrong.
But your nervous system? Your nervous system is acting like the relationship is on fire.
In this episode, we're talking about what to do with yourself when your partner feels distant and why the answer has nothing to do with getting them to text faster, reassure you more, or prove they still care.
Because the truth is:The moment they pull back, most anxious attachers immediately abandon themselves.
And that's where the spiral begins.
In this episode:
💭 Why distance feels like an emergency when you have anxious attachment📱 The urge to text, check, monitor, and keep the conversation alive🫠 Why "matching their energy" usually creates even more distance❤️ The difference between trusting your partner and actually feeling safe🔍 How overthinking turns you into a relationship detective🌿 What secure attachment really looks like when someone is having an off day✨ The surprising question that will stop you from centering your entire life around their availability
If you're a high-achieving woman who can manage a business, lead a team, crush your goals... but completely unravel when someone's energy changes, this episode is for you.
Because healing anxious attachment isn't about getting better at reading signals.
It's about learning how to stay connected to yourself when someone else feels unavailable.
And that's exactly what we're diving into today. 🤍
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If you’ve ever had the BEST weekend together… only to spiral the second Monday hits?
This episode is for you.
We’re diving into:
✨ why the “post-weekend crash” happens
✨ why anxiety gets louder after connection - not quieter
✨ the hidden loop behind overthinking, decoding texts, and picking fights you don’t even want to have
✨ why reassurance never fully fixes it
✨ the difference between a relationship problem and an anxiety problem pretending to be one
I’m also sharing:
🤍 a personal story from my own relationship
🤍 a powerful client breakthrough
🤍 why your nervous system keeps trying to “prepare for loss”
🤍 and the exact reason so many high-achieving women stay stuck in this cycle for years
This episode is deep, validating, practical, and honestly one of the most important conversations I’ve had on the podcast in a while.
Because relationship anxiety isn’t usually about the weekend.
It’s about what your safety system learned to do long before this relationship ever existed.
🎧 Listen now if you’re tired of overthinking good things, sabotaging peace, or feeling like your brain is constantly searching for a problem.
 
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