BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

3 Mistakes You're Making That Make You Second Guess a Secure Relationship

If you're in a healthy relationship but your brain won't stop spiraling... this episode is going to hit home. In this week’s episode I’m breaking down the 3 mistakes that keep high-achieving, anxious girlies stuck in the cycle of second-guessing even the most loyal and consistent partner. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: “Why can’t I just enjoy this person?” “Why am I prepping for the breakup when everything’s going fine?” “Am I making problems where there are none?” 👀 Then this is for YOU.
I’m walking you through:
✨ The "prep for the pain" loop that keeps you emotionally exhausted
✨ Why treating your relationship like a project to manage is sabotaging your joy
✨ How mistaking surveillance for loyalty drains your connection ✨ And how to finally start trusting yourself so you can receive the love right in front of you
Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or navigating love after heartbreak, this episode is your permission slip to step off the spiral ride and start feeling secure for real.
🎧 Get ready to hear:
→ Why your anxiety won’t let you enjoy a secure partner
→ The real reason you keep sabotaging connection
→ How to stop overthinking and start building self-trust
This episode is especially for my anxious attachment babes, my high-functioning overthinkers, and my career girlies who crush it at work but feel like a mess in love.
This week we’re unpacking the real reason your brain confuses anxiety for intuition (and how to stop self‑sabotaging a healthy relationship!) If you’ve ever questioned your feelings, overanalyzed your partner’s every move, or convinced yourself your anxiety was a “gut feeling,” this episode is for you!
🧠 In this episode we'll be diving into:
✨ Why “the ick” is often a fear of intimacy, not intuition
✨ How anxiety shows up as false alarms in safe relationships
✨ The difference between red flags vs. self‑protection
✨ How to stop testing your partner and start trusting connection
✨ What your nervous system is actually trying to protect you from
✨ Why discomfort doesn’t mean danger—it means growth I share a personal story about how I almost lost an incredible partner because I thought my fear was “a sign.” (Spoiler: it wasn’t.) I want you to stop mistaking safety for boredom and start building the kind of secure relationship you’ve been craving!
🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed.
 
🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 
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What Happens When You Confuse Your Anxiety For Intuition

This week we’re unpacking the real reason your brain confuses anxiety for intuition (and how to stop self‑sabotaging a healthy relationship!)
If you’ve ever questioned your feelings, overanalyzed your partner’s every move, or convinced yourself your anxiety was a “gut feeling,” this episode is for you!
🧠 In this episode we'll be diving into:
✨ Why “the ick” is often a fear of intimacy, not intuition
✨ How anxiety shows up as false alarms in safe relationships
✨ The difference between red flags vs. self‑protection
✨ How to stop testing your partner and start trusting connection
✨ What your nervous system is actually trying to protect you from
✨ Why discomfort doesn’t mean danger—it means growth
I share a personal story about how I almost lost an incredible partner because I thought my fear was “a sign.” (Spoiler: it wasn’t.) I want you to stop mistaking safety for boredom and start building the kind of secure relationship you’ve been craving!
🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
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WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Why You Keep Mistaking Anxiety for Intuition in Your Relationship

In this episode we’re unpacking one of the most confusing (and exhausting) dynamics in anxious relationships ➡️ Anxiety vs. Intuition. And why your nervous system can't tell the difference.... yet. 
We’ll dive into:
✨ The #1 way to know it’s anxiety (not intuition)
✨ How urgency, reactivity & spiraling feel like instinct - but aren’t
✨ Why you're addicted to checking the “emotional alarm system”
✨ What happens when your gut is actually trauma memory
✨ How to disable the internal alarm so you stop mistaking fear for truth
✨ What it actually feels like when your intuition is speaking
PLUS: 🥲 A healing win from a client who went from toxic love + cancer treatment → to remission, emotional regulation, and finally letting love in 💅 🛏 My unhinged side quest to find the world’s best sheets (self-regulation starts in the bedroom, babes) 📲 Real talk Q&A from inside The Healing Girl Gang: “Is it weird he only calls at night?”
🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 
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The Reason You Spiral Even When Nothing’s Wrong in Your Relationship

You’re Not Overreacting - You’re Dysregulated (Here’s Why It Feels Like Everything’s Falling Apart When It’s Actually Fine)
You’re not crazy.
You’re not being dramatic.
You’re just dysregulated AF and your body hasn’t caught up to how safe your life actually is.
This episode is for the high-functioning, hyper-self-aware girlies who are checking all the boxes on paper... but still secretly spiraling in silence. 🙃
If you've ever caught yourself mid-anxiety spiral like: “Wait… nothing bad is happening. So why does this feel so familiar?” then this episode is the nervous system deep-dive you didn’t know you needed!
🧠 Inside this episode, we're unpacking:
✨ Why your brain panics when life finally feels calm
✨ How “being self-aware” can actually mask emotional control
✨ The difference between spiraling and actually self-regulating
✨ Why your nervous system doesn’t trust safety (yet)
✨ The powerful shift from “What’s wrong with me?” to “Of course I feel this way”
✨ How to stop rejecting the good stuff (including your partner’s love) ✨ Real wins from Healing Girl Gang members: showers, breathwork, daily habits that shift your state 💕
If you're tired of managing your emotions like a full-time job and you just want to feel safe being happy... this episode is for you!
🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed.
👉 Join here: healinggirlgang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 
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You're self aware but still in the overthinking spiral?

You’ve read the books, saved the Instagram carousels, diagnosed your attachment style (hi anxious girlies 👋), and can spot a spiral from a mile away… but you’re still spiraling?! 🌀
In this episode, we break down:
💭 Why high self-awareness doesn't stop the overthinking
🧠 The "anxious observer" trap (aka when you know you’re spiraling and still can’t stop)
🪞 How spiraling damages self-trust and your relationship
❤️‍🔥 The secret sauce to actually feeling safe (spoiler: it’s not just positive affirmations)
👩‍⚖️ A juicy client win (shoutout to M, our unbothered queen)
🌲 And what solo camping trips taught Clare about healing from abandonment wounds
✨ If you’re a high-achieving, emotionally intelligent woman who crushes it at work but crumbles inside a text bubble… this one’s for you.
🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed.
👉 Join here: healinggirlgang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
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When Overthinking Is Your Relationship Coping Mechanism (and why it’s not a Solution)

Do you go to overthinking the second the vibes are off?
Scroll TikTok for answers before the text even delivers?
Google “anxious attachment + texting” like it’s your part-time job? Yeah. Me too.
This episode is for the girlies who know they’re spiraling and feel like they can’t stop—especially when they’re dating someone good. If overthinking has become your coping mechanism in relationships, this episode will land.
We’re talking:
• Why your brain loves overthinking (hint: dopamine)
• Why it feels productive, but actually disconnects you from real connection
• How you're using mental work to avoid emotional work
• The real reason you can explain your triggers but still don’t feel better
I also share a story from my own spiral (yes, the lost RV keys) and shout out a few of my amazing clients who are breaking this cycle in real time—especially Seth and Autumn (you’re killin’ it 👏).
If you’ve ever felt like:
🌀 “I can’t relax until I figure it out”
🧠 “I keep overthinking even though I know I’m safe”
💔 “I keep creating problems when there aren’t any” …this episode is for you.
💌 Inside the Healing Girl Gang, we’re taking this even deeper all month long masterclasses, implementation days, tools, coaching… the works. If this episode hits, wait ‘til you see what we do inside the gang.
 
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Why You Keep Spiraling Even When You Know Better

✨ You’ve read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You could give a TED Talk on attachment styles. So why are you still spiraling?!
In this episode I'm talking to YOU, the high-achieving, emotionally intelligent girlie who knows her patterns but still finds herself overthinking texts, replaying convos, and getting caught in the same loop with the same person... again.
If you’ve ever thought:
🧠 “I know better, but I can’t stop overthinking.”
😬 “Why do I keep doing this when I’m so aware of what’s happening?”
💔 “I feel like two different people—confident in my career, anxious in my relationship.” Then hit play because this episode is for YOU!
We’re breaking down:
• Why knowing your attachment style isn’t enough
• How your brain is prioritizing familiar over safe
• What it really means to “feel ready” for love
• Why you’re addicted to overthinking and calling it “clarity”
• And how to finally shift from spiraling to self-trust
👯‍♀️ Bonus: I shout out a few of my 1:1 clients (hey, Mrs. N 👀) and show you what real healing looks like...not just awareness, but actual transformation.
🎧 And if you’re loving this, this is just the surface. Inside the Healing Girl Gang, we go deeper with tools, practice, and coaching to help you stop overthinking for real, not just for the afternoon.
👉 Join here: healinggirlgang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 
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Is THIS The Most Toxic Habit of Anxious Attachment?

✨ Ever feel like your brain just won’t shut off... even when everything’s actually fine in your relationship? You’re spiraling, checking for signs, running worst-case scenarios, and overanalyzing their every move... but you know deep down, it’s you, not them. 🤯
On this week's episode we're diving into what might be the most toxic, but totally normalized, habit anxious attached girlies keep doing… and why it’s actually keeping you stuck in the spiral. 😵‍💫
If you're a high-achieving, big-hearted babe who feels like she knows better but just can’t stop overthinking, this is your sign to tune in.
We’re breaking down:
- The real reason your brain loves to overthink (hint: dopamine hit 😬)
- Why spiraling feels productive, even though it’s sabotaging connection
- How overthinking is actually keeping you from intimacy—and what to do instead
- What makes this pattern so hard to quit, even when your partner is amazing
💡 Plus, I'm giving you tools, truth bombs, and a loving kick in the butt to help you finally break the habit FOR GOOD! 🎧 LISTEN NOW and drop a comment if you’re deep in the spiral lately (no shame, you’re not alone).
👯‍♀️ Want more support? Join our private membership, the Healing Girl Gang, where we’re doing a 5-day Overthinking Detox all month long! You get the trainings, the tools, and the coaching to actually heal… not just cope.
 
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3 Things I Learned to Finally Stop Overthinking (after nearly 💩ing in a tent!)

After six weeks of serious inner work (including a spiritual cleanse and a solo wilderness retreat where I literally faced my fear of abandonment head-on), I’m sharing the three biggest things that helped me stop overthinking once and for all. If you’re the kind of girly who spirals over a short text... rereads convos wondering what you did wrong... or catastrophizes when nothing is actually wrong... this episode is going to hit deep.
Inside, we'll talk about:
✨ What it really means to listen to your body (and why it matters for your anxious brain)
✨ How productivity pressure secretly fuels relationship anxiety
✨ The difference between your gut and your fear brain
✨ And how I finally felt safe doing... nothing. Just being. Truly.
PLUS: tomorrow (Wednesday!) is Implementation Day inside The Healing Girl Gang and this month’s focus is on Overthinking. If you’re ready for the how, this is where we get specific and walk through the process together.
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 
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How to Get Out of the Overthinking Loop for Good

If you spiral when your partner seems distant… If your brain won’t stop running “what did I do wrong?” loops… If you’re smart, successful, high-achieving, and still struggling with anxious thoughts in love… You are so not alone. And this episode is for you. 🧠💔
We’re unpacking 3 hard truths about overthinking that every anxious-attached woman needs to hear (especially if you’ve tried everything and still find yourself mentally replaying texts, second-guessing convos, or feeling like your thoughts are running you).
We're breaking down:
⭐️ The truth about why you can’t “outthink” fear
⭐️ What your spiral is actually protecting you from
⭐️ Why control isn’t the answer and what is
⭐️ How to retrain your nervous system instead of judging it
Plus, a real-time coaching moment with a Healing Girl Gang member struggling to let go of someone who doesn’t see a future even though she still feels love for him. You’re going to want to hear this. 👀 🌿
Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety and stop the mental spiraling once and for all? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we do just that with masterclasses, implementation days, live coaching, and our Overthinking Detox every month.
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
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